Chance or by Choice
I read this article somewhere while I was in my love struck mode some time back, caught in between the arrows of cupid - what I call my ‘one quarter’ life crisis since I am hardly in my mid-life. I like to perceive it this way and thought of sharing this piece with you.
When we meet the right person to love when we’re at the right place
at the right time, that’s chance. When you meet someone you’re
attracted to, that’s not a choice. That’s chance. Being caught up in
a moment (and there’s a lot of couples who get together because of
this) is not a choice. That’s also a chance.
My thoughts:
Why are we always afraid to talk to our bosses about issues that we feel strongly about? Have you ever wondered? When something does not seem right, you would keep quiet rather than voice out your opinion. Does it help to spend a considerable amount of time complaining to your colleagues which can only lead to your day turning into a bad one? Whose fault is that?
As a result: IM TOTALLY NOT MOTIVATED. I LOST IT, AND I DON’T KNOW WHATS MY PASSION, HOW TO GET MOTIVATED, WHATS NEXT? HOW LONG MORE AM I STUCK IN THIS “SH*THOLE”?
At the end of the day, it is all about choices – yours and mine. Whichever way it goes, it is always a result of the choices we make.
Your boss may have given you a task and had not realized what it really entailed for you. You have a choice whether to bring this up to him or simply to just let it slide. There are many reasons why you may not want to speak up. One of which is the fear of being reprimanded or chided and making you look silly in the process. However, keeping quiet may also backfire and at the end of the day as you could get yourself in more hot water. Either way, just remember that it is a choice that only you can make. There are always choices whether you choose to speak up or not.
The issue snowballs because by choosing not to speak up you could also get demoralized. Then the cycle goes on as you continue to complain more and more and this will definitely affect your work life.
In the long run, that can be so demoralising especially if you have put in so much effort in the hope to earn that recognition that you have always wanted. In short, since complaining is not that helpful to improve your work life why not try something new? Like speaking out for a change!
MORAL OF THE STORY : You play a part in creating a situation whether you like it or not. He may not like your ‘wanting to speak up your mind’ but at least he knows you have a mind. Do not decide how he will respond – just do it and you might be surprised. It works both ways. Be open to his suggestions as well. Tell him clearly that you value his feedback to improve the situation. Make it a win-win situation. Who knows? He could be impressed with your pro-active stance and see you as an initiator. And if nothing else, at least you have practised courage which in the long run can only benefit you.
There are a lot of surveys that show management do appreciate workers who come forward to speak out their minds in a positive way. Where do you think you will stand if you are just an employee who knows only to take instructions and have no idea how to give feedback? What kind of contribution will you be making to the company in the long run? More importantly, how can your boss even acknowledge your commitment if you have never made an effort to get his attention in the first place?
So the next time you decide to speak to your boss remind yourself that you are simply putting forward your thoughts while at the same time valuing his.
So likewise if you are a business owner and has a team. This could be how your team is reacting.
How do you build this ‘safety bridge’ or ‘comfort zone’ for your staff to speak up?
Very often, we hear people complaining about how terrible their managers/supervisors/leaders are, from covering claiming their staff’s credit to covering their own backs to backstabbing their own team members…