The Challenges of a Family Business
The usual myth of “The first generation builds the business, and the second generation destroys it” has been proven wrong.
Ferry Soetikno is the President Director of PT Dexa Medica who started being involved in the family business 18 years ago as a Business Development Manager. Under his father’s leadership, Dexa grew as a medium size enterprise. Now under Ferry, they’ve grown into a global company. According to him, the biggest challenge is earning the trust to take over the business from the Founder.
For a complete interview with Ferry Soetikno, go to www.youtube.com under the coachcyn channel and look for the video called “The Father Starts the Business, the Son Makes It Global.” (only in Bahasa Indonesia)
In any family business there’s a superhero called Dad or Mom who built the empire from nothing, zip, zero, zilch. The Founder went through hard times to make things work with very minimal resources. Unfortunately the superhero is mortal and is getting tired. But like many superheroes, they can only trust another superhero to replace them. So how does the Successor prove that he/she is the next superhero?
Founders, before you expect superhero strengths from your children, think of the difference in how you and your children grew up. Usually you started with nothing and you’re used to hard work. When you became successful, you made sure your kids had the best in life. Some of you even gave them special positions after they graduated and special un-earned power in your organization before they’re ready. Are they tough enough? Did you give them the life experience to make them tough?
I believe toughness is an essential ingredient to earning trust in taking over a family business.
So Successors, can toughness be taught? I believe it can on at least 2 aspects: survival and performance.
Survival. My cousin was in the process of earning trust from his dad. Every morning around 8 am, his dad rides to work in his nice car driven by a driver. He gets to work around 9 am. But his son starts out in the bottom of the corporate ladder. Did he get to ride in the same car? Of course not. And not even the family car. He leaves home at 6.30 am to take the bus to work and get there by 8 am. His father’s explanation was simple: “My other employees don’t get to ride in my car with me.” Successors, first earn your founder’s trust that you can survive without special privileges. You can learn the business and grow from the bottom wrung just like any normal employee.
Performance. When I meet many second-generation entrepreneurs and ask them, “So what do you do in your family business?” they answer, “I’m just helping out.” Helping out? “Umm, so what department are you in?” I persisted. “Oh, you know, I’m kind of assisting my dad to make sure things happen.” Right!
Founders, please help your Successor earn their trust, not just with you, but with the rest of the organization. How? Set them a clear role, clear KPI, clear rewards & consequences. In case you’re tempted to quickly put them in a managerial role, just think “If a candidate with this experience/skills came to me for a job, would I put them in a managerial role?” If the answer is No, then start them out at a more junior level. Remember they have to earn trust with the rest of the company, not just with you.
Successors, please note that trust is earned, not demanded. Don’t walk around the office demanding of people just because you’re the owner’s kid. Because you will look like the owner’s KID. Make sure you achieve your own performance before you expect others to achieve theirs.
Happy are those who earn their way by performing to the top. There’s less trouble exercising leadership once you get there.
Earning trust. That’s a big one. And it takes a team effort from both the Founder and the Son. I’m happy to see this video as an example of what could be. All it takes is clarity in terms of common goals, job roles, performance standards, and consequences.
Make it a good day.

